July 11, 2025

No Sick Days

When you’re sandwiched, there simply are no sick days, at list not without getting others (likely multiple others) to accommodate said sick days. This morning the provider at urgent care found red throats for Dad and I and a very red infected ear for me in addition to sinus infections and we headed home with prescriptions for antibiotics.

However, while Dad came home to his awaiting bed (I will say that he grabbed Mom’s protein drink first and got up to make her soup at lunchtime), I came home to more outstanding work paperwork, packing, meal prep, laundry, and errands. My decision to head out right before noon to pick up my prescription and get my 12 year old to the library was questionable because, as I soon realized, everyone was out at that time. The drive thru was packed and someone I just couldn’t handle talking to while sick was in the inside line so did a 180 out of line and headed to the car to move onto the library, sans prescription.

As I was pulling out of the pharmacy parking lot to satisfy my son’s need to read Anthony Horowitz, another medical call came in to get Mom scheduled for the appointment for the gastroenterology provider from the big hospital system who does apparently know about nutrition. I had the wherewithal to tell the caller I was driving and I needed her to pause while I merged and she was very nice and accommodating, but I scheduled that appointment, drove to the library, and came home to just keep swimming.

Thankfully I had a virtual therapy session for myself today at just the right time after losing patience with the kids and simmering with self-loathing over my limits. Post therapy I self-reflective, but also self-compassionate and going to bed very early after taking my antibiotics and leaning on my husband to take care of bed time for our youngest kiddos. Now hopefully it’s a quiet evening in Mom and Dad’s suite or the cell will be ringing.

There truly isn’t sick time while sandwiched. There is no relief for the primary caregivers and advocates, the sandwiched, Unless and Until someone chooses to provide backup. It’s a season without clocking out, sun up to sun down.